I've learned the hard way that the main reason for all of these problems and addictions in life is attachment:
🚩Attachment to always being right
🚩Attachment to our people
🚩Attachment to not being good enough
🚩Attachment to emotional highs
🚩Attachment to food
🚩Attachment to sugar
🚩Attachment to societal pressures
🚩Attachment to being liked
🚩Attachment to comfort
🚩Attachment to “earning” what we want
Your life won’t improve if you continue these attachments. You will continue to be let down, have body inflammation, feel like crap, feel helpless, and not achieve your highest dreams.
I was ALL OF THIS. Bitching, complaining, full of anxiety, unsatisfied in life, and unfulfilled in relationships. I was implementing healthier steps, but I wasn’t letting go of the unhealthy behaviors and quick fixes. And I was still being triggered in a big way.
I hit rock bottom in 2010 when I went to jail (for something I didn’t do). Because I wasn’t being mindful of all my choices and letting go of certain ways of thinking, I was dating someone COMPLETELY out of alignment with my values. This was the catalyst that turned my life around.
Life continuously got better from here on out.
I started to REMOVE the things that didn’t help me feel aligned, calm, and happy, and I started to feel respect for myself (this was a big one).
It was really hard work. I saw a counselor to help me work through my trauma, a personal trainer to help me get healthy physically, and so much more! Now I’m living an aligned life, 14 years later, and you can have that too.
The Power of Letting Go
When I look back at my journey, one thing stands out clearly: letting go of these attachments was crucial. It's not easy to detach from things we've held onto for so long. But I realized that these attachments were the chains holding me back from a fulfilling life.
Attachment to Always Being Right
For a long time, I felt the need to always be right. This attachment created conflicts and strained relationships. According to psychological research, the need to be right stems from a deep-seated fear of inadequacy and rejection. By letting go of this need, I learned to listen more, understand others' perspectives, and this nurtured healthier relationships.
Attachment to Societal Pressures
Society has a way of imposing its expectations on us. Whether it's about our career, looks, or lifestyle, societal pressures can be overwhelming. I used to conform to these pressures, trying to fit into a mold that wasn't meant for me. Psychologists emphasize the importance of self-acceptance and authenticity. When I started prioritizing my own values over societal expectations, I found true happiness and peace.
Attachment to Being Liked
The desire to be liked is natural, but when it becomes an obsession, it can be detrimental. I often compromised my values to gain approval from others. However, true self-worth comes from within. Studies show that self-esteem based on external validation is fragile, while intrinsic self-esteem is robust and enduring. By focusing on self-acceptance, I built a solid foundation for my well-being.
The Road to Self-Improvement
My journey was far from easy. It required a deep commitment to change and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths about myself. I sought professional help to guide me through this process. My counselor helped me unpack my traumas, while my personal trainer pushed me to become physically healthy. These steps were essential in my transformation.
Mindfulness and Conscious Choices
A significant part of my transformation was becoming mindful of my choices. I began to understand the impact of my decisions on my mental and physical health. Mindfulness, the practice of being present and fully engaged in the moment, played a crucial role. It helped me break free from automatic, unhealthy patterns and make conscious choices that aligned with my values.
The Journey Continues
Even after 14 years, the journey of self-improvement continues. Every day, I make a conscious effort to live in alignment with my values and let go of attachments that no longer serve me. It's a lifelong process, but the rewards are immeasurable. I am happier, healthier, and more fulfilled than I ever thought possible.
You Can Do It Too
This story is just one example of how letting go of unhealthy attachments can transform your life. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Start by identifying the attachments that hold you back. Seek professional help if needed, and don't be afraid to ask for support from friends and family. Remember, the power to improve your life lies within you. Let go of what society thinks you should be and embrace your true self. The journey may be challenging, but the destination is a life of alignment, peace, and happiness.
I'm here as a guide to empower women into their greatness. It has been my passion for many years now, growing together alongside other women has been extremely powerful for my own journey
of growth.
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